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An Annulment Story

Early in 2016, I applied for an annulment with the Roman Catholic Church. Last month, I received a Decree of Nullity, which says my marriage to Lou “did not create a permanent and sacramental bond and therefore is not an … Continue reading

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Lucky Thirteen

My marriage was officially dissolved three days  before what would have been Lou’s and my thirteenth wedding anniversary, but I didn’t receive the signed paperwork until two days after. August 3 slipped by with both of us thinking we’d made … Continue reading

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Children on the trajectory

I woke up this morning from a long, cinematic dream that my foggy recollections sensed played out like the plot of a Seth Rogan movie. One where the male lead is the faulted but generally loveable husband-figure, and he and … Continue reading

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Anniversary season

Yesterday was my wedding anniversary. Twelve years. Twelve years since a sweltering Saturday afternoon when Lou and I proclaimed “I have, I will, I will” before a crowd of friends and family inside the church where I attended Friday Mass … Continue reading

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Say My Name, Say My Name

There’s a little box you can check at the end of the divorce petition: “wife requests to be known as her former name.” You check the box, fill in your “former” name, and just like that, as soon as your … Continue reading

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Love Never Ends

My deep philosophizations of late have been about love.   The familiar passage from I Corinthians on love, popular at weddings (including my own), tells us,   Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or … Continue reading

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Feel what you feel

Today after church, I went to the pier downtown and spent some time watching the pelicans diving for fish. The way they do it is pretty dramatic: they fly in great loops high in the air, then suddenly pivot toward … Continue reading

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