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Lucky Thirteen

My marriage was officially dissolved three days  before what would have been Lou’s and my thirteenth wedding anniversary, but I didn’t receive the signed paperwork until two days after. August 3 slipped by with both of us thinking we’d made … Continue reading

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Children on the trajectory

I woke up this morning from a long, cinematic dream that my foggy recollections sensed played out like the plot of a Seth Rogan movie. One where the male lead is the faulted but generally loveable husband-figure, and he and … Continue reading

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Anniversary season

Yesterday was my wedding anniversary. Twelve years. Twelve years since a sweltering Saturday afternoon when Lou and I proclaimed “I have, I will, I will” before a crowd of friends and family inside the church where I attended Friday Mass … Continue reading

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Say My Name, Say My Name

There’s a little box you can check at the end of the divorce petition: “wife requests to be known as her former name.” You check the box, fill in your “former” name, and just like that, as soon as your … Continue reading

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Love Never Ends

My deep philosophizations of late have been about love.   The familiar passage from I Corinthians on love, popular at weddings (including my own), tells us,   Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or … Continue reading

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Feel what you feel

Today after church, I went to the pier downtown and spent some time watching the pelicans diving for fish. The way they do it is pretty dramatic: they fly in great loops high in the air, then suddenly pivot toward … Continue reading

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Karma, grace, and learning never to say never

Lou and I have split up. I moved into an apartment about two months ago. We’ll be listing the house soon. Filing papers. We’re sharing custody of Poppy and Ace, dividing bank accounts and cell phone bills, and discussing things … Continue reading

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